Congratulations and happy deciding together! (For what it’s worth, we got hitched long after we had been together, houses, kid etc so I hyphanated our last names, seemed simple at the time, not so good with two difficult to spell names!!!)

Posted by Rachael  on  12/27  at  03:27 PM

No legal ramifications, I don’t think, to not taking his name.  Your wedding license will be on file.  Don’t have a wedding for your families --- do it for yourselves only.  (Voice of Experience.)

Rox and I can both come.  I can bring B & H --- there’s bound to be a Best Man in there somewhere!

Posted by Kim  on  12/27  at  03:29 PM

Just to add to the fun, how about him taking your name? If you don’t care about a big wedding then how about the courthouse and then a BIG party afterwards (our party was 6 months later!). 

Just be happy and don’t let the stress of whatever take over.  Oy, family.

Posted by Laurie  on  12/27  at  04:09 PM

I’ve got a few doctors in my family and they always keep their names.  I’ve never heard of any problems with that.  If you’re married legally, that’s all that matters to the benefits/legal documents.

Posted by Brad  on  12/27  at  04:32 PM

keep it fun simple and basic ... really it is a headache only to be forgotten later when life is back to normal!

The only suggestion I have on the name thing ... IRS is kinda nasty if you change your DL and not your SS ... good luck have fun on the honeymoon! That after all is the BEST part!

Posted by MBKimmy  on  12/27  at  08:29 PM

Heck you live in Florida..you have beautiful beaches..just kick off your shoes and put your toes to the sand.Nothing like a wedding on the ocean with the sun going down..
Keep your name with a - in between and keep it simple for less stress.Believe me big weddings are a PAIN and something always goes wrong..but then thats what makes em cute. Plus your’e an awesome cake designer...and you could even sew your own beautiful dress.As Multi talented as you are..I bet you can get it just right..

Send invites..if alls well with this back..I just might make the date...Gratz again Chickie.

Posted by  on  12/28  at  01:59 PM

Congrats!!  Don’t rush to any decisions.  Given enough time the right thing will make itself known - whether it be the location of the wedding or what name to carry on with.

Posted by jae  on  12/28  at  06:01 PM

Congrats!  I’m so happy for you!  Advice from a divorced woman?  lol Well...I do have one really good tid bit.  Weddings tend to turn into shows.  They suddenly spin out of control and you find nothing meaningful in them...all show.  Concentrate on the two of you and NOTHING more!  It’s ALL ABOUT YOU!...not sparklers or bubbles or rice or anything else.  You do what YOU really want!  Then party like hell!  I’d love to help in any way I can...just let me know!  Even if it is distracting this side of the family so you can have some peace! Cheers!

Posted by  on  12/29  at  11:01 AM

Yeah, no legalities as regards keeping your name. With my son’s dad, I hyphenated, and that was nothing more than a pain in the ass. Does taking his name offer you a fun new initials option?

Posted by  on  01/03  at  09:18 AM