Unfinished Object

I have a hard time making decisions, especially when I’m buying large ticket item. I research and ask opinions and agonize over making the right choice, and often change my mind multiple times along the way. I know you are tired of wedding posts, but this one is really about my choosing malady…rings just happen to be the big purchase I’m wrestling with right now. When I started out I wanted a plain band with a few small stones set in it. Or that’s what I thought I wanted. When I looked at them they seemed a little cold and a lot too ordinary. I stopped looking in the wedding case and started looking at the phenomenon called ‘right hand rings’. Better, more organic somehow, but also more fragile and there’s little doubt that I’ll be harder on it than the average person. I need to be practical and reasonable about my choice but I want to be in love with it too. So, I switch gears and leave off of filigree and move on to vintage.

These have promise and many have colored stones along with the diamonds. D is big on colored stones, especially rubies. They are popular with the stores as well. When we’ve looked at them every sales person we’ve encountered has felt inclined to tell me that Lady Di’s ring was a sapphire….but I digress. These are sturdier, but more architectural…still not right. Then my mom says I can have the diamond from her engagement ring and I shift gears again, solitaire this time with side stones, but since I wasn’t looking for that style in the first place I have to go back to all the places I’ve been – sheesh.

Mom’s being in town made ring shopping easy and we retraced my steps without dragging D around too much, but we did take him back to the local artisan jeweler where I think we’ve both found rings. My top pick combines all those things I looked at earlier. Wire work with a bezel set, stones in the band, white and rose gold, with a center stone – it’s the kitchen sink of rings, but as gaudy as it sounds. So, providing it looks like I remember it does when I go back, here’s the plan: Buy the ring and set it with mom’s solitaire. Wear it a while and determine if I’m in danger of knocking the whole head out of it. If it looks like I’m going to destroy it I’ll have the stone and head removed and replaced with a repetition of the wire work. However, if all is going well I’ll start saving up for an ideal cut diamond instead (have you seen these? Sweet swoonin’ Jupiter but they are sparkly!).

Though this post has been about rings I could rewrite it about dining tables and flat screen TV’s, sofas and chairs, washers and dryers, carpet, cars…if it was expensive and I’ve purchased one you can bet your bloomers I’ve fretted over it. What’s worse is that by the time I do make a decision I’m tired of the whole process; it’s more ‘get it over with’ than ‘this is THE one’. With D and my tastes running contrary to each other the process is doubly difficult. The dining table was a meeting of those two opinions, it would do at the time but we both hate it now. But it isn’t just our wayward tastes; this affliction was present long before I met D. I suspect the roots of it lie in my extreme dislike of being wrong or making a mistake…or worse, someone catching me at either. Not long ago I embarrassed myself while at a restaurant with D; it’s a post for another time but it had something to do with the entertainer’s butt. D piped up, it’s nice to see you embarrassed for a change and if that isn’t encouragement to ‘let it go’ a little more often I don’t know what is…now all I have to do is decide when!

Posted by Shan on 05/15 at 03:03 PM
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